BEWARE ! 5 MISLEADING TIPS TO GET GIRLFRIENDS
Article by William Larivière
Do you remember how many times you read Magazines, articles and websites telling you tons of advice on relationship which they claim guaranteed you to get girlfriends? And remember how many times they failed big times and cost you your relationship? Well, there are reasons for these:
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As the world evolve from generation to generation, the things they recommend might have worked 20 years ago. But nowadays you’ll find pretty much everything that you been told before does not work. Therefore, my advice? Ignore everything you have been told so far and read on.It might help you on how to get girlfriends someday.
1. Writing a letter, song or poem
Teenagers probably write a poem or a song more than anything else in attempt of winning over a lady. From a simple paragraph ‘I can’t live without you’ or ‘you are my everything’ to even a 3000 word essay mostly filled with love song lyrics and movie quotes.
Well, let me tell you this. Written words don’t work if you’re not already in a relationship. And why is that?
“Rules No.1 in writing: Only write something that you know about”
Writing is not just about writing skills and grammatical savvy; it is the content that matter most. In order to write something for her, you have to know her first. How can you intend to impress her with words when you don’t even know a single thing about her? You might merely screwed up and end up as a laughing stock for her.
Tips : : Wait till you’re already in a relationship and you will know if she likes this sort of stuff, before you give her any writing you dedicated to her. It’s not a bad idea to write some stuff you can recycle over and over again, just don’t be too specific. I think that she would be a bit unhappy if you said ‘I love to caress your long, soft, blonde hair’ if she was bald. Not to mention if she’s blind. But you get what I mean. By the way, why bother to write letter if you have Facebook, Twitter and YM?
2. Have confidence
No matter where you go, an ‘expert’ will always include this tip as an advice. You got to have confidence in everything that you are planning to do. In simple words, self-confidence is a very essential part in one’s life. I couldn’t agree more.
However, having confidence does not sum all the matter up. Confidence is something that you build through process and not something that one’s inherited automatically in every human being genes. And to build confidence, ones should have strategy to achieve it. The keyword here is ‘strategy’.
Let assume that you attracted to this girl and wanted to approach her. Then, because of the high level of self -belief that you possessed, you go up to her as a complete stranger and talk to her out of the blue. She would definitely shock to death after being confronted by somebody that pops up from nowhere. And like adding salt to the wound, this is what most probably going to happen;
i) If she was with her friends, she’ll probably laugh at you or talk behind your back to her friends when you go away,
ii) If you’re with a group of friends, she’ll probably feel threatened by being surrounded, and
iii) If you’re by yourself she’ll think you’re a loner and will not want to talk to you.
Tips: Plan your strategy before you make the first move. Avoid asking her out the first time you see her. Find one of your friends who knows the girl or the girls’ friends, and go with them to hang around with the girl you like. This way you can become friends with her friends, and will have a much warmer relationship with her before you try to win her over. And she’s less likely to make you look like an idiot in front of everyone else.
3. Learn to play an instrument
This is one of the most common tips. As you know, playing musical instrument is never easy, unless you are born gifted with such talent. Well, I’m not talking about tambourine, recorder or casket. We are talking about ones that take skills. The guitar is the most common one.
This is supposed to show that a guy is creative, talented and is committed to something. However, she probably won’t pay much attention about. Think about it. You’re not with her 24/7, so as long as you’re not a completely useless being, you don’t need to be the most interesting or talented man in the world.
Look at any talented metal band, or any professional guitarist. Both types of play need incredible skill, and years of dedication, but do you see anyone in either category ‘beating women off with a stick’, probably not. You don’t have to be the next Slash or Kurt Hammet to get the girls of your dreams.
Tips:
Just do fun things when you’re with her. FUN THINGS is the keyword here. It doesn’t have to be big and creative. As long as she has fun with you, then you are on the right track. Physiologically, happy and funny moment are easily remembered in everybody life. So make her remember you! And get higher chances to get a girlfriend of you dream.
4. Take an interest in what she’s interested in
Theoretically, if you can do what she’s doing, both of you will be able to connect quickly and soon she will be moving the sewing equipment aside (This is what girls like to do, right?) and will take more interest in you.
Well, not quite. Here’s an examples. Think about something you are really good at. Let say video games.
Now imagine all the times when someone (probably your dad) has tried to play along with you. And imagine all the times you’ve told him ‘no dad, for heaven’s sake, it’s me you are shooting at!’. Annoying, isn’t it?
When a complete novice, who doesn’t care at all about finishing the level, joins in and gets you killed. This is what it would be like if you tried to join in with her sewing. She would spend all her time telling you what to do and don’t. Sooner all later, all the yelling will take place because she’s getting annoyed at your lack of enthusiasm or skill. You are not making her impress. You are making her stress!
Tips: To be fair, do something you both never done together and have the same interest in and skill level at. If you’ve just started something, invite her to do it, and vice versa.
5. Act Romantic and Just be yourself
Writing letter, songs or poetry and playing with bouquet of flowers does come into this category, but you may be surprised to know that most of them don’t work. It might work with Romeo and Juliet during Shakespeare’s day but it seems to lose it sense of attraction nowadays. Well, it’s a bold statement I guess but let me tell you why it does make sense.
Think about which guys you know are getting all the girls at your school or college? I can assure you, most of them share this common uniform of attributes. They are ‘real men’ and ‘bad boy’ typed. Real men play football, rugby or any athletic sports oriented. ‘Bad boy’ typed nearly always ignorant, cocky, arrogant and stupid.
So, what does it tell you? It’s mean that most girls in modern society today like ‘real men’ and ‘bad boy’. And if you’re not in any of those stereotypes, you’re probably out of luck no matter what you try. However, having all those ‘real men’ attributes do not sum everything up. Think for a minute, they are arrogant, cocky and stupid but yet all of them had a girl on the end of their arms ever since. Why? Because they look attractive, that’s why!
But doesn’t it sound contrary with the magical tips of ‘just be yourself’?
Tips: Trust me, looks are everything. No matter how many times you are told ‘you shouldn’t care about looks, it’s what’s inside that counts’ it will never be true. There’s no such thing as ‘being yourself’. Remember that kid at the back of the class who would always smell really bad and not have any friends? He didn’t care what anyone else thought. He was being himself…
The first thing a girl will ever notice about you is how you look. So look at what stereotype you fit into. If you’re good looking, this is probably the best stereotype to be in, because you don’t have to work hard to keep up your appearance and get noticed.
If you are not, you can also look attractive by focusing more on your hair and clothing styles. Make some research via magazine, internet or make your own personal observation on how the trend flows. But keep in mind, whatever that you planning to do to look presentable, make sure you don’t overdo it. Or less you will be end up like somebody from mars.
Finally, find the stereotype of the girl you like, and join that stereotype. Remember, if you can’t beat them, join them.
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About the Author
William Larivière
William is the free-lance writer and founder of newwhymenleavesite.com – an exclusive rich content site about relationship.He always happy to share his thought and view in many perspective and dimension of thinking.
